April 5 - Gold Star Spouse Day
Today, we recognize Gold Star Spouses – those spouses of service members killed in action. The sacrifices of Gold Star spouses, and indeed the entire family of the fallen service member, cannot be adequately expressed. Those that must live in the wake of their loss, knowing their loved ones gave their lives for their country takes incredible strength and resilience.
How The Flag Started
During World War I, families began displaying the now-traditional service flag with a blue star for each family member that was serving in the war. If the service member lost his or her life during their service, the families would display a gold star in place of the blue star.
In the wake of the loss of their children in World War I, founding members of the original Gold Star Mothers (then the American Gold Star Mothers, Inc.) gathered in Washington, D.C.. Following its incorporation in 1929, Gold Star Mothers began a legacy of advocacy for all members of the Gold Star family to “perpetuate the memory of those whose lives were sacrificed in our wars,” “inculcate lessons of patriotism and love of country in the communities in which we live,” “extend needful assistance to all Gold Star Mothers, and, when possible, to their descendants,” and to care and provide assistance to veterans, among other chartered aims of the organization.
It was during America’s next war, World War II, that the Gold Star Wives organization was created. The Gold Stars Wives has lived its mission “to improve benefits for the Military Surviving Spouse.” Today, one of their main goals includes supporting legislation that addresses inequities in DIC benefits.
We recognize and honor Gold Star Spouses on this day, and Gold Star Families on the last Sunday of September each year.
The Gold Star Lapel Button
The Gold Star lapel button was established by Congress in August 1947 to be worn by the families of those that lost a loved one: a spouse, mother, father, brother, sister, son or daughter. This pin, while humble in size, is monumental in the meaning it conveys and in all those who wear and recognize the pin. A family member must apply to receive a Gold Star lapel pin by submitting a DD Form 3 to the relevant service department.
If you are a Gold Star Spouse or family member in need of support, visit Military One Source for the most up-to-date information and resources. To learn more about Gold Star Spouses day, we encourage you to watch Brook Army Medical Center’s tribute to Gold Star Spouses’ Day.
If you have been denied survivors benefits and would like to discuss your options, please reach out. We would be honored to help.